Building Bonds by Evey McKellar

Improvised comedy begins with “Yes, and.


I agree to the name you just gave me, the relationship you clarified, and to the situation you established that we’re in.


I contribute to it, so that our scene continues collaboratively and in mutuality.

A good, successful improvised scene is anchored in the combination of Yes and And. Receive, cooperate, build.

However, “good” may be misinterpreted as, “the best, most awesome comedic ideas ever to hit this stage.” That thinking leads to a competition of ideas on stage, largely resulting in a response of “No, this instead…”

“Success” may be misinterpreted as being able to single-handedly make the audience laugh, or be applauded as the star.

This begins to look something like this:

My idea is hilarious. It is brilliant and clever, and the audience needs to know the hilarity I’ve created. I want to be the funny one, to get the most laughs. Get your other idea out of here, it’s my time to shine.

In making it about my ideas alone, I’ve abandoned my teammates and scene partners. I’ve made it a competition, I’ve injured the scene.

“We’re living in a culture that only admires success in relation to its visibility, and not how people are helping each other.” (Mike Birbiglia on the themes in his movie Don’t Think Twice)

A fable goes that a man dies and encounters an angel at the pearly gates. He is processed and taken to a room where many people sit around an abundant table, filled with food. Yet, every guest appears to be malnourished. Attached to their hands they each hold a spoon with an abnormally long handle. Each person has a bowl of food in front of them, but cannot manage to scoop up any food or turn it towards their mouths. They look miserable.

The man is led to another room, with almost the exact same setup. Each guest sits at a table, with an abnormally long spoon affixed to their hands. In front of them sits a feast, but many of the portions seem nearly empty, and the guests each look satisfied and healthily fed.

The man turns to the angel to inquire about why these guests are in such a different state if they have the same setup as the last room.

The angel responds, “They have learned to feed each other.”

Improvised comedy redefines success:

Success happens when we bond and build trust with one another.

Success happens when we co-create.

Success happens when we enter into the community of the scene.

There is something wonderfully subversive about the practice of improvised comedy. It is a beautiful microcosm of what is true on a macro level. Everybody gets something out of it, and, rather than when only in it for themselves, everybody stands to gain more when they decide to give themselves over to the method.

Evey McKellar is a Level 3 Improv student, a writer and UMC clergy. She works for a nonprofit, lives in Dallas, and loves Cane Rosso.